‘Get Inspired’ Saturday : Land of a Billion Sparks

Speech given by Chetan Bhagat at the orientation program for the new batch of MBA students
Symbiosis, Pune, July 24, 2008
(Note : This is one of the most amazing speeches I’ve heard. Delivered by a great writer and contemporary thinker, Chetan Bhagat . Very easy to follow and practical to apply. Hoping his lines has the same impact on you as it had on me !)


Good Morning everyone and thank you for giving me this chance to speak to you. This day is about you. You, who have come to this college, leaving the comfort of your homes (or in some cases discomfort), to become something in your life. I am sure you are excited. There are few days in human life when one is truly elated.  The first day in college is one of them.  When you were getting ready today, you felt a tingling in your stomach. What would the auditorium be like, what would the teachers be like, who are my new classmates – there is so much to be curious about. I call this excitement, the spark within you that makes you feel truly alive today. Today I am going to talk about keeping the spark shining. Or to put it another way, how to be happy most, if not all the time.

Where do these sparks start? I think we are born with them. My 3-year old twin boys have a million sparks. A little Spiderman toy can make them jump on the bed. They get thrills from creaky swings in the park. A story from daddy gets them excited. They do a daily countdown for birthday party – several months in advance – just for the day they will cut their own birthday cake.

I see students like you, and I still see some sparks. But when I see older people, the spark is difficult to find. That means as we age, the spark fades. People whose spark has faded too much are dull, dejected, aimless and bitter. Remember Kareena in the first half of Jab We Met vs the second half? That is what happens when the spark is lost.   So how to save the spark?

Imagine the spark to be a lamp’s flame. The first aspect is nurturing – to give your spark the fuel, continuously. The second is to guard against storms.

To nurture, always have goals. It is human nature to strive, improve and achieve full potential. In fact, that is success. It is what is possible for you. It isn’t any external measure – a certain cost to company pay package, a particular car or house.

Most of us are from middle class families. To us, having material landmarks is success and rightly so. When you have grown up where money constraints force everyday choices, financial freedom is a big achievement. But it isn’t the purpose of life. If that was the case, Mr. Ambani would not show up for work. Shah Rukh Khan would stay at home and not dance anymore. Steve Jobs won’t be working hard to make a better iPhone, as he sold Pixar for billions of dollars already. Why do they do it? What makes them come to work everyday? They do it because it makes them happy. They do it because it makes them feel alive Just getting better from current levels feels good.If you study hard, you can improve your rank. If you make an effort to interact with people, you will do better in interviews. If you practice, your cricket will get better. You may also know that you cannot become Tendulkar, yet. But you can get to the next level. Striving for that next level is important.

Nature designed with a random set of genes and circumstances in which we were born. To be happy, we have to accept it and make the most of nature’s design. Are you? Goals will help you do that. I must add, don’t just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

You must have read some quotes – Life is a tough race, it is a marathon or whatever. No, from what I have seen so far, life is one of those races in nursery school, where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same with life, where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

One last thing about nurturing the spark – don’t take life seriously. One of my yoga teachers used to make students laugh during classes. One student asked him if these jokes would take away something from the yoga practice. The teacher said – don’t be serious, be sincere. This quote has defined my work ever since. Whether its my writing, my job, my relationships or any of my goals. I get thousands of opinions on my writing everyday. There is heaps of praise, there is intense criticism. If I take it all seriously, how will I write? Or rather, how will I live? Life is not to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up? It’s ok, bunk a few classes, goof up a few interviews, fall in love. We are people, not programmed devices.

I’ve told you three things – reasonable goals, balance and not taking it too seriously that will nurture the spark. However, there are four storms in life that will threaten to completely put out the flame. These must be guarded against. These are disappointment, frustration, unfairness and loneliness of purpose.

Disappointment will come when your effort does not give you the expected return. If things don’t go as planned or if you face failure. Failure is extremely difficult to handle, but those that do come out stronger. What did this failure teach me? is the question you will need to ask. You will feel miserable. You will want to quit, like I wanted to when nine publishers rejected my first book. Some IITians kill themselves over low grades – how silly is that? But that is how much failure can hurt you. But it’s life. If challenges could always be overcome, they would cease to be a challenge. And remember – if you are failing at something, that means you are at your limit or potential. And that’s where you want to be.

Disappointment’ s cousin is  Frustration, the second storm.  Have you ever been frustrated? It happens when things are stuck. This is especially relevant in India. From traffic jams to getting that job you deserve, sometimes things take so long that you don’t know if you chose the right goal. After books, I set the goal of writing for Bollywood, as I thought they needed writers. I am called extremely lucky, but it took me five years to get close to  a release. Frustration saps excitement, and turns your initial energy into something negative, making you a bitter person. How did I deal with it? A realistic assessment of the time involved – movies take a long time to make even though they are watched quickly, seeking a certain enjoyment in the process rather than the end result – at least I was learning how to write scripts, having a side plan – I had my third book to write and even something as simple as pleasurable distractions in your life – friends, food, travel can help you overcome it. Remember, nothing is to be taken seriously. Frustration is a sign somewhere, you took it too seriously.

Unfairness – this is hardest to deal with, but unfortunately that is how our country works. People with connections, rich dads, beautiful faces, pedigree find it easier to make it – not just in Bollywood, but everywhere. And sometimes it is just plain luck. There are so few opportunities in India, so many stars need to be aligned for you to make it happen. Merit and hard work is not always linked to achievement in the short term, but the long term correlation is high, and ultimately things do work out. But realize, there will be some people luckier than you. In fact, to have an opportunity to go to college and understand this speech in English means you are pretty damm lucky by Indian standards. Let’s be grateful for what we have and get the strength to accept what we don’t. I have so much love from my readers that other writers cannot even imagine it. However, I don’t get literary praise. It’s ok. I don’t look like Aishwarya Rai, but I have two boys who I think are more beautiful than her. It’s ok. Don’t let unfairness kill your spark.

Finally, the last point that can kill your spark is Isolation. As you grow older you will realize you are unique. When you are little, all kids want Ice cream and Spiderman. As you grow older to college, you still are a lot like your friends. But ten years later and you realize you are unique. What you want, what you believe in, what makes you feel, may be different from even the people closest to you. This can create conflict as your goals may not match with others. And you may drop some of them. Basketball captains in college invariably stop playing basketball by the time they have their second child. They give up something that meant so much to them. They do it for their family. But in doing that, the spark dies. Never, ever make that compromise. Love yourself first, and then others.

There you go. I’ve told you the four thunderstorms – disappointment, frustration, unfairness and isolation. You cannot avoid them, as like the monsoon they will come into your life at regular intervals. You just need to keep the raincoat handy to not let the spark die.

I welcome you again to the most wonderful  years of your life. If someone gave me the choice to go back in time, I will surely choose college. But I also hope that ten years later as well, your eyes will shine the same way as they do today. That you will Keep the Spark alive, not only through college, but through the next 2,500 weekends. And I hope not just you, but my whole country will keep that spark alive, as we really need it now more than any moment in history. And there is something cool about saying – I come from the land of a billion sparks.

Thank You.

‘Voice it’ Tuesday : Is 16 old enough to punish ?

In  the wake of the brutal gang-rape and murder of a 23-year-old woman in a moving bus, in Delhi, by six males, including a minor, protestors from different  activist groups are calling  for reducing the age limit for Juveniles under the criminal justice system from 18  to 16. Though the petition is completely understandable considering the magnitude of the assault, it makes sense to reject this proposal, as the move, driven by emotions, would do more harm than good.

According to the The Juvenile Justice (Care and Protection of Children) Act, 2000, the minor charged in the Delhi rape and murder, will receive rehabilitation in a Juvenile remand home and may walk free with a maximum of three years, while the other five convicts  will serve a life imprisonment or face a death penalty according to the verdict. The victim’s family is enraged by this decision of the Supreme Court and want a death sentence, for the so called ‘Juvenile’, irrespective of his age. If he is old enough to rape, he is old enough to be hanged, is the  speculation made by protestors.

According to Adithan , Advocate in Criminal Law, even if the law is passed now it will not impact the perpetrators of the Delhi crime, and could only have grave consequences for several other juveniles in future.

Take the case of the 15 year old Student who stabbed to death his teacher in an empty classroom in Chennai last February, after she gave him bad marks  on a progress card. This sent shockwaves throughout the nation. Here the victim, the mother of two girls, also deserves Justice but will it then require the Juvenile’s age to be lowered to as low as 14 ?

Instead of calling for brutal penalties in the event of one brutal case, we need to amend the Juvenile Justice Act of 2000 and implement it in such a way to balance and solve three issues:

1) bring justice to people who are the victims to Juvenile Delinquency;

2) defend the children of our country while giving them a second chance; and most importantly

3) curb youth crime rates.

So the million dollar question arises ‘Should such juveniles who commit heinous crimes be let off just because of their age?’ The nature and intensity of the punishment should be based on the gravity of the offense and intention behind it and not based on the age. In The United States, heinous crimes such as rape and murder are handled as exceptions and 16 year olds are tried as adults in such cases. These harsh punishments are only to ensure that victims are granted the  Justice and  this to an extent might also prevent such crime among Juveniles. Adithan, even suggests maintaining a separate block in prison for adolescents, like there is one for women, so that Youth ‘Criminals’ are punished but separated  from hardcore adult criminals. He says a choice may be made whether the adolescent should be sentenced to Simple Imprisonment or Rigorous Imprisonment.

There are many minors who are lured into crimes due to family influence, bad parenting and peer influence. It appears in many cases that adults misuse the Juvenile provisions for Justice and use these children in acts such as robbery and fraud. The solution doesn’t lie in condemning Juveniles in conflict with the law, in par with adults . Reformist mode works best here — making them responsible citizens of tomorrow. Once a criminal, forever a criminal is how the Indian society functions – there is no second chance for the 16 year olds to lead a normal life henceforth .

According to The Indian Express, over 33,000 juveniles, mostly between the age group of 16 to 18, have been arrested for crimes like rape and murder across the country in 2011, the highest in the last decade. It is the lack of protection mechanism that is responsible for the growing incidence of Juvenile Delinquency. For instance  the police force in London started an event that worked with the Newham All Star Sports Academy or NASSA, which works with troubled young people and introduces them to sports. A small basketball tournament was played between teams made up of young people from the NASSA. The message of the event was, ‘carry a basketball, not a knife,’ and it was a very innovative and an interesting way to get young people to engage in a fun activity and stay out of trouble.

India is a signatory to the United Nations Convention on Child Rights and the Beijing and Riyadh rules that define a child as anyone aged less than 18 years; adhering to International norms is yet another reason to not lower the age bar for Juvenile delinquents.

There have been plenty of arguments debating that the biological age shouldn’t determine the mental maturity of a person. But there are unique challenges to setting a bar for maturity. Reducing the upper limit to 16 will further require the government to entitle them to vote, drink, marry, drive and even permits to take up legal representation. It is agreeable to think when 16 year olds are mature enough for all the other such related entitlements, the Juvenile’s age in the Judiciary act may then be lowered to 16.

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Note :  Apologies if this post seems slightly outdated -this was written by me as an opinion- editorial in a Freelance Journalism class  and thought it was worth posting and getting feedback.

‘Flashback’ Friday : Delhi Diaries …

Close to Delhi, Gurgaon – is where I got my first taste of corporate life. The 6 months Internship with Reckitt Benckiser (the company that manufactures Mortein, Lizol,Veet etc. ) gave me more than just a ‘working in an office’ experience. Being about 2500 km (1600 miles) away from home, in a city I had seen only in pictures , people all around speaking mostly only in Hindi– a language I didn’t follow extensively and a temperature which was always either biting cold or scorching hot ,the Internship was a once-in-a-lifetime accomplishment. Delhi gave me four awesome friends , a sense of togetherness, the happiness of receiving a paycheck, the joy of blowing it up on weekends , the mindset to face criticism, the conviction to move on no matter what and unlimited laughter. In short, it prepared me for life !

The back to back movie watching, the shopping, the complaining about work , the panicky nights when the time to enter home was overstepped , the pranks , the favors , the high-fives, the nick-names, the room on the terrace and not to miss out ‘The great accident’ are radiant in my head ! Cheers to the good times , Lessons from the bad times !

Note : ‘The great accident’ calls for a whole new post 😉

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